Most people are so excited about meeting someone new for dating and a relationship that they forget to ask the important questions that could affect whether they are even compatible. This is usually because all they care about is the fact that they now have someone to do things with. They have someone to spend Valentine’s Day with as well as other special days throughout the year. That is all that matters, right? You only need to have a warm, living, breathing body with you on those days so that you are not alone and lonely. If that were the actual truth, there would be many more happy couples in the world.
What people should be looking for is that special someone that they can connect with and have many things in common with, sometimes referred to as a “soul mate.” However, even this is difficult when you do not have the answers to the key questions. That is why there is a basic set of questions that you need to ask anyone that you are interested in pursuing a relationship with.
If you are thinking that you have found Mr. or Ms. Wonderful, the following are some questions that you really need to get answered and out of the way before taking it any further:
Have you ever been married? The answer to this one is important because it shows you a couple of things about him/her. If he/she says yes, then at least once in his/her life he/she was willing to commit to someone. It also tells you there is a story about why it ended.
How long have you been divorced? This lets you know whether the timing is good for a relationship with him/her.
When did your last relationship end? This is another question that tells you if he/she is emotionally available to you.
What caused the relationship to end? It is important that you know what happened in his/her previous relationships so that you can decide whether he/she is good relationship material.
Do you hope to marry again? If it is your hope to marry, you need the answer to this question before taking things any further. There is no need to continue if you want to get married and he/she has no desire to ever walk down the aisle again.
If you do not want to marry again, what are you looking for in a relationship? A tricky question, the answer you get will tell you a great deal about what your potential relationship will be if you choose to pursue one with this man/woman. Make sure that his/her intentions match what you want in a relationship. If it is not, then move on before things go any further.
When you ask these questions and get the right answers, you will know that it is time to move forward with him/her. Answers that do not seem to match what your future hopes are should send you packing and on your way.